To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge. But forgiveness is possible -— and it can surprisingly beneficial to your physical and mental health.
“People who forgive show less depression, anger and stress and more hopefulness,” says Frederic, Ph. D., author of Forgive for Good. “So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital.”
So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps:
Calm yourself. To defuse your anger, try a simple stress-management technique. “Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love,” Frederic says.
Don’t wait for an apology. “Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing,” Frederic says. “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don’t see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting an awfully long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.
Take the control away from your offender. Mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain. “Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you,” Frederic says.
Try to see things from the other person’s perspective. If you empathize with that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear, even love. To gain perspective, you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offender’s point of view.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness. Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns.
Don’t forget to forgive yourself. “For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge,” Frederic says. “But it can rob you of your self-confidence if you don’t do it.”
1.Forgiveness is（）
2.What does “wear and tear” mean?
3.Which is Not the technique of healing?
4.Which of the following can be inferred from the passage?
5.What is the main idea of the passage?
问题1选项
A.easy to do
B.noble
C.only beneficial to physical health
D.impossible to get your grudge go
问题2选项
A.Damage resulting from ordinary use.
B.Energy.
C.Friction.
D.Moisture.
问题3选项
A.Inhale deeply.
B.Mentally replay your hurt often.
C.Distract your attention.
D.Think in another point of view.
问题4选项
A.The person who hurt you is sure to make an apology to you later on.
B.You may condone others’ wrong doings.
C.Forgiveness doesn’t equal obeyance.
D.You should negotiate with the person who upset you.
问题5选项
A.Ways to get well from your hurt.
B.To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy.
C.Forgiveness benefits to your physical and mental health.
D.An introduction to the book Forgive for Good.
第1题:B
第2题:A
第3题:B
第4题:C
第5题:C
第1题:
【选项释义】
Forgiveness is . 宽恕是 。
A. easy to do A. 容易做到的
B. noble B. 高尚的
C. only beneficial to physical health C. 只对身体健康有益的
D. impossible to get your grudge go D. 不可能消除你的怨恨
【考查点】事实细节题。
【解题思路】根据文章首句To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy.（宽恕也许是神圣的，但从来没有人说这是一件容易的事），noble与divine属于同义替换，因此B选项“高尚的”正确。
【干扰项排除】
A选项“容易做到”与首句中“但从来没有人说这是一件容易的事”表述不符，属于曲解原文；
C选项“只对身体健康有益”与首段中“而且它对你的身心健康有意想不到的好处”表述不符，属于曲解原文；
D选项“不可能消除你的怨恨”与首段表述不符，宽恕是能够消除怨恨的，属于曲解原文。
第2题:
【选项释义】
What does “wear and tear” mean? “wear and tear”是什么意思？
A. Damage resulting from ordinary use. A. 日常使用造成的损坏。
B. Energy. B. 能量。
C. Friction. C. 摩擦。
D. Moisture. D. 水分。
【考查点】语义辨析题。
【解题思路】根据题干关键词wear and tear定位第二段第二句So it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs, reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital.（所以它可以帮助减少我们器官的wear and tear，减少免疫系统的磨损，让人们感觉更有活力）可知，此处指的是宽恕可以帮助我们减少器官的磨损，因此A选项“日常使用造成的损坏”正确。
【干扰项排除】
B、C、D选项均未在文中体现，属于无中生有。
第3题:
【选项释义】
Which is Not the technique of healing? 哪一个不是治愈的技巧？
A. Inhale deeply. A. 深吸气。
B. Mentally replay your hurt often. B. 经常在心里回想你的伤痛。
C. Distract your attention. C. 分散你的注意力。
D. Think in another point of view. D. 换一种角度思考。
【考查点】事实细节题。
【解题思路】根据选项关键词Mentally replaying定位第六段第二句Mentally replaying your hurt gives power to the person who caused you pain.（在心里重复你所受的伤害只会让伤害你的人更有力量），由此可知这并不有助于治愈，因此B选项“经常在心里回想你的伤痛”正确。
【干扰项排除】
A、C、D选项均是文章所提到的治愈技巧，属于反向干扰。
第4题:
【选项释义】
Which of the following can be inferred from the passage? 以下哪项可以从文章中推断出来？
A. The person who hurt you is sure to make an apology to you later on. A. 伤害你的人以后一定会向你道歉的。
B. You may condone others’ wrong doings. B. 你可以宽恕别人的错误。
C. Forgiveness doesn’t equal obedience. C. 原谅不等于服从。
D. You should negotiate with the person who upset you. D. 你应该和让你心烦的人协商。
【考查点】推理判断题。
【解题思路】根据第五段尾句Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.（请记住，宽恕并不一定意味着与让你心烦意乱的人和解或宽恕他或她的行为）可推断出C选项“原谅不等于服从”正确。
【干扰项排除】
A选项“伤害你的人以后一定会向你道歉的”与第五段中“所以如果你等着别人道歉，你可能会等很长时间”表述不符，属于曲解原文；
B选项“你可以宽恕别人的错误”与第五段中“宽恕并不一定意味着与让你心烦意乱的人和解或宽恕他或她的行为”表述不符，属于曲解原文；
D选项“你应该和让你心烦的人协商”不能从文章中推断出来，属于无中生有。
第5题:
【选项释义】
What is the main idea of the passage? 这篇文章的主旨是什么？
A. Ways to get well from your hurt. A. 从伤痛中恢复的方法。
B. To forgive may be divine, but no one ever said it was easy. B. 宽恕也许是神圣的，但从来没有人说这是一件容易的事。
C. Forgiveness benefits to your physical and mental health. C. 宽恕对你的身心健康都有好处。
D. An introduction to the book Forgive for Good. D. 《学会宽恕》一书的介绍。
【考查点】主旨大意题。
【解题思路】forgiveness为本文的关键词，再结合全文内容可知，本文主要是讲如何宽恕以及宽恕的益处。因此C选项“宽恕对你的身心健康都有好处”正确。
【干扰项排除】
A、B、D选项表述都只是文章中提到的一部分内容，不足以概括全文内容，属于以偏概全。
