I grew up in my parents’ pub in England where there was always a lot of drama, and all the drama—fights, flirting, tears, tantrums—revolved around love. I also watched my parents destroy their own love for each other. Since that time I’ve been on a mission to figure out exactly what love is. My mother described it as “a funny five minutes.” It’s also been called a mysterious mix of sentiment and sex, or a combination of infatuation and companionship. Well, it’s more than that.
My personal insights, gleaned from researching and counseling more than a thousand couples over 35 years, have now merged with a growing body of scientific studies, to the point where I can now say with confidence that we know what love is. It’s intuitive and yet not necessarily obvious: It’s the continual search for a basic, secure connection with someone else. Through this bond, partners in love become emotionally dependent on each other for nurturing, soothing, and protection.
We have a wired—in need for emotional contact and responsiveness from significant others. It’s a survival response, the driving force of the bond of security a baby seeks with its mother. This observation is at the heart of attachment theory. A great deal of evidence indicates that the need for secure attachment never disappears; it evolves into the adult need for a secure emotional bond with a partner. Think of how a mother lovingly gazes at her baby, just as two lovers stare into each other’s eyes.
Although our culture has framed dependency as a bad thing, a weakness, it is not being attached to someone provides our greatest sense of security and safety. It means depending on a partner to respond when you call, to know that you matter to him or her, that you are cherished, and that he will respond to your emotional needs.
The most basic tenet of attachment theory is that isolation—not just physical isolation but emotional isolation—is traumatizing for human beings. The brain actually codes it as danger. Gloria Steinem once said a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. That’s nonsense.
The drama of love that I saw played out at the bar each night as a child is all about the human hunger for safe emotional connection, a survival imperative we experience from the cradle to the grave. Once we do feel safely linked with our partner, we can tolerate the hurts they will inevitably inflict upon us in the course of daily life.
1.The word “drama” (line 1&2, paragraph 1) can be best replaced by_________.
2.We can infer that_________.
3.The need for emotional contact and responsiveness from significant others is_________.
4.According to the author, _________.
5.This passage_________.
6.We can infer that the British culture_______.
7.According to the author, there has been a great deal of evidence that the need for secure emotional attachment is________.
8.When we feel safely linked with our partner___________.
问题1选项
A.highly emotional events
B.dramatic works performed on a stage
C.literary works acted on a stage
D.dramatic arguments
问题2选项
A.the author’s parents were divorced
B.the author is married
C.love for a couple exists only for 5 minutes
D.love is infatuation and companionship
问题3选项
A.strong
B.sometimes weak
C.regular
D.developed over time
问题4选项
A.love is marked intuition
B.dependency is not a weakness
C.attachment theory can explain everything about love
D.isolation is tolerable for lovers
问题5选项
A.clarifies the misconceptions about love
B.describes the most basic tenet of love
C.studies love from the perspective of science
D.redefines the concept of love
问题6选项
A.discourages physical isolation
B.encourages emotional attachment
C.is supportive of dependency
D.endorses independence
问题7选项
A.short-lived
B.everlasting
C.less intense
D.fading way gradually
问题8选项
A.we will not argue with him or her
B.whatever our partner says or does matters a lot to us
C.the physical and emotional isolation is bearable
D.we will tolerate the hurts they will inflict on us
第1题:A
第2题:A
第3题:A
第4题:B
第5题:D
第6题:D
第7题:B
第8题:D
第1题:
【选项释义】
The word “drama” (line 1&2, paragraph 1) can be best replaced by _____. 第一段首行“drama”一词的意思与下列哪个词意思最相近？
A. highly emotional events A. 高度情绪化的事件
B. dramatic works performed on a stage B. 在舞台上表演的戏剧作品
C. literary works acted on a stage C. 舞台上的文学作品
D. dramatic arguments D. 戏剧性的争吵
【考查点】词汇推断题
【解题思路】精确定位到第一段第一句，该句提到“所有的戏——争吵，调情，眼泪，发脾气——都是围绕着爱情”。争吵，调情，哭闹和发脾气，文中提到这些事情无一例外都是和情绪相关的事件，所以选项A符合题意。
【干扰项排除】其余各项均与原文不符，无法准确表达含义，属于曲解原文。
第2题:
【选项释义】
We can infer that _____. 我们可以推断出_____。
A. the author’s parents were divorced A. 作者的父母离婚了
B. the author is married B. 作者已婚
C. love for a couple exists only for 5 minutes C. 夫妻间的爱情只存在5分钟
D. love is infatuation and companionship D. 爱是迷恋和陪伴
【考查点】推理判断题
【解题思路】根据第一段第二句提到的“我也看到我的父母毁掉了他们彼此之间的爱”可推测，作者的父母离婚了，因此A选项正确。
【干扰项排除】
B选项“作者已婚”在文中没有信息提及，属于无中生有。
C选项“夫妻间的爱情只存在5分钟”在首段中有提及，作者的母亲认为爱是“a funny five minutes”，即“爱是有趣的五分钟”，这是作者母亲的看法且无需推断，因此该选项属于出处错位。
D选项“爱是迷恋和陪伴”可精准定位到首段最后一句原文，同样也是作者母亲的看法，属于出处错位，不符合题意。
第3题:
【选项释义】
The need for emotional contact and responsiveness from significant others is _____. 我们需要从重要的人那里得到情感上的接触和回应是_____的。
A. strong A. 强大的
B. sometimes weak B. 有时候弱
C. regular C. 常规的
D. developed over time D. 随时间发展
【考查点】事实细节题
【解题思路】根据题干可精确定位至第三段，根据第三段第一句，该句提到“我们有一种连线——需要从重要的人那里获得情感接触和回应”，由此可知，这种需求是强烈的，因此选项A符合题意。
【干扰项排除】其余各选项均不能准确表达“需求很强烈”的含义，属于曲解原文。
第4题:
【选项释义】
According to the author, __________. 根据作者观点，__________。
A. love is marked intuition A. 爱被标记为直觉
B. dependency is not a weakness B. 依赖不是一种弱点
C. attachment theory can explain everything about love C. 依恋理论可以解释爱情的一切
D. isolation is tolerable for lovers D. 对恋人来说，孤独是可以忍受的
【考查点】推理判断题
【解题思路】根据第四段第一句，该句提到“虽然我们的文化把依赖定义为一件坏事，一种弱点，但它不是，依赖于某人可以给我们带来最大的安全感”可知，作者认为依赖不是弱点，因此B选项正确。
【干扰项排除】
A选项“爱被标记为直觉”，可精确定位至第二段，该句提到“爱是一种直觉，但并不明显；它是对与他人基本的、安全的联系的持续探索”，选项之中表述不完整，属于曲解原文。
C选项“依恋理论可以解释爱情的一切”，表述过于绝对，属于以偏概全。
D选项“对恋人来说，孤独是可以忍受的”，可精确定位至倒数第二段首句，该句提到“依恋理论最基本的原则是，隔离——不仅是身体上的隔离，还有情感上的隔离——会对人类造成创伤”，与原文所说完全相反，属于反向干扰。
第5题:
【选项释义】
This passage_____. 这篇文章_____。
A. clarifies the misconceptions about love A. 澄清了关于爱的误解
B. describes the most basic tenet of love B. 描述了爱的最基本的原则
C. studies love from the perspective of science C. 从科学的角度研究了爱情
D. redefines the concept of love D. 重新定义了爱的概念
【考查点】主旨大意题
【解题思路】文章首段作者便提出了母亲对爱的看法，根据第二段首句关键词“my personal insights”可知，作者在下文给出了自己对爱的见解，是结合了自己的经历对爱的概念重新进行定义，因此D选项符合题意。
【干扰项排除】
A选项“澄清了关于爱的误解”，作者在第一段中提到，在目睹了父母婚姻破裂之后，便下定决心要弄清楚什么是爱，随即提到了母亲对爱的理解，但作者认为真正的爱不止于此。这只是说明两人因为经历不同，对爱的理解不同，不属于误解，因此A选项属于曲解原文。
B选项“描述了爱的最基本的原则”作者并未提到爱的基本原则，文中并无对应出处，属于无中生有。
C选项“从科学的角度研究了爱情”，作者全文只是结合自己经历，抒发自己的感悟，表明自己的观点，并不是科学的角度研究爱情，属于偷换概念。
第6题:
【选项释义】
We can infer that the British culture _____. 我们可以推断出英国文化_____。
A. discourages physical isolation A. 阻碍了物理隔离
B. encourages emotional attachment B. 鼓励情感依恋
C. is supportive of dependency C. 支持依赖
D. endorses independence D. 鼓励独立
【考查点】事实细节题
【解题思路】根据题干，精确定位至第四段第一句，该句提到“尽管我们的文化把依赖定义为一件坏事，一种弱点”，这里的文化指的就是英国文化，他们认为依赖是一件坏事，是一个弱点，也就是说他们认可独立自主，D选项符合原文。
【干扰项排除】其余各选项均不符合原文事实，无法体现出英国文化认可独立自主，均属于曲解原文。
第7题:
【选项释义】
According to the author, there has been a great deal of evidence that the need for secure emotional attachment is_____. 根据作者的观点，有大量的证据表明，安全依恋的需求是_____。
A. short-lived A. 短暂的
B. everlasting B. 永恒的
C. less intense fading way gradually C. 没那么强烈的
D. fading way gradually D. 逐渐消退的
【考查点】事实细节题
【解题思路】根据题干，精确定位至第三段第四句“大量证据表明，安全依恋的需求从未消失”，由此可以推断出对安全感的需求是持久的，选项B正确。
【干扰项排除】其余各选项均不能反应原文事实，且无法指出安全依恋的需求是永恒的，因此均属于曲解原文。
第8题:
【选项释义】
When we feel safely linked with our partner _____. 当我们觉得和伴侣的关系很安全的时候_____。
A. we will not argue with him or her A. 我们不会和他或她争论
B. whatever our partner says or does matters a lot to us B. 无论我们的伴侣说什么或做什么对我们都很重要
C. the physical and emotional isolation is bearable C. 身体和情感上的孤立是可以忍受的
D. we will tolerate the hurts they will inflict on us D. 我们将容忍他们对我们造成的伤害
【考查点】事实细节题
【解题思路】根据题干，精确定位至最后一段最后一句“一旦我们觉得和伴侣在一起很安全，我们就能忍受他们在日常生活中不可避免地给我们带来的伤害”，D选项和原文表述一致，符合题意。
【干扰项排除】其余选项在原文中均无对应出处，属于无中生有。
